New View Advice Podcast Episodes

In this episode, I respond to a listener struggling with limerence and intense infatuation for their best friend—a love that feels impossible and is tangled with self-hate, shame, and depression. We dive into the power of self-love, self-compassion, and curiosity, offering practical guidance for anyone caught in obsessive thoughts or fantasies.

In this episode, I dive deep into the emotions and challenges that arise when you don’t get along with your partner’s parents—especially when toxic and hurtful behavior is in play. I answer a listener question about a difficult first meeting with a partner’s mother. I share insights on how to process the pain, anger, and fear that surface in these situations.

In this episode, I open up about the painful journey of healing from sexual violence—especially the heartbreak of not seeing your rapist held accountable. As a fellow survivor, I share how I’ve navigated a world that often protects the “nice guy” and fails survivors. We talk about validating our emotions, reclaiming our voice, why justice and healing don’t always align, and how to keep choosing ourselves. I also share practical resources, tips for finding support, and ways to reconnect with purpose after trauma.

In this episode, I dive into the tough question of when to let go of a relationship, especially when addiction is involved. We explore how even culturally accepted addictions can impact a relationship and cause real harm. I respond to a listener’s question about loving a partner who won’t change, coping when your needs aren’t being met, and the painful tension between the good moments and ongoing hurt.

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about healing after betrayal in a long-term relationship. A year and a half ago, this listener cheated on their girlfriend, and ever since, the relationship has been continued falling apart with no signs of improvement. We explore what it really takes to rebuild trust, how betrayal reshapes both people, and when letting go might be the most compassionate choice.

Losing a friendship can be painful and unexpected. In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to heal after the end of a female friendship. I explore why these relationships can be difficult, how to process the loss, and why it’s okay that not all friendships last forever. I also touch on the role of childhood wounds and patterns in our connections.

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question: “How do we begin again after a major life change?” I dive into the emotions and feelings that come with starting over—whether after a breakup, moving to a new place, or losing friendships. I share my own personal stories of beginning again, from navigating unexpected loss to switching life paths more than once.

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is navigating heartbreak after the end of relationship where they believed they could change someone, only to realize they could not. We discuss the question – how do we let go of the potential of someone and accept the truth of the relationship?

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who struggles to speak aloud their experience of sexual assault. I think this is a very common experience for survivors of sexual violence, and I give a few reasons why I believe it is hard for survivors to speak about their experiences of sexual trauma. I also share tools on how you can begin to share your story in ways that may feel safe for you.

In this episode, I answer my own question - what do we do when things don’t go according to plan? After a disappointing couple of week’s I found myself needing a reminder about how to pivot when faced with feeling lost and feelings of heartbreak, disappointment, and just like nothing would go my way. I discuss the challenges of suppressed memories, how to pivot after a creative “failure”, not being where I want to be, and how to find the gifts in the tough chapters of life. I also discuss self-doubt and how self-doubt can feel crippling, but you can trust yourself.

In this episode, I welcome special guest Kelly Schooner, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to discuss what is EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and how EMDR can help people on their healing journeys. We discuss who EMDR can help, how EMDR can help people with “big T trauma” and also “little T traumas”, the difference between suppression and repression, how EMDR can help people with ADD, and more. We also touch on the question - can you trust an EMDR memory.

In this episode, we discuss the feeling of frustration. Responding to a listener's question about feeling stuck and overwhelmed by frustration, we explore various emotions that often accompany feeling frustrated, such as anger, hopelessness, and disappointment. I talk about the importance of understanding the root causes of our frustration and offer advice on how to process and work through it.

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to forgive oneself after cheating in a relationship. This listener is struggling with feelings of loneliness, sadness, and fear, and they feel as though they have to carry this burden and heavy shame by themselves.

In this episode, I delve into a listener's heartfelt question – what does it mean if I fail at love? This listener is feels like they are getting a second chance at love with an ex, and finds themselves feeling fear arise. They have been in love before and are worried they will “mess up” this new relationship. Through the episode, we explore the intricacies of love, vulnerability, and self-worth, while also emphasizing the importance of self-love and being kind to oneself on the journey to finding meaningful connections.

What do we do when life feels too good to be true? We often expect to embrace happiness when things are good, but the truth is many people struggle and feel triggered when things are going well. Many people ask themselves – is it too good to be true?

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question: Why am I scared of love? I dive into the reasons so many of us experience a fear of love, including the fear of vulnerability, childhood trauma, low self-worth, and even the anxiety that love or a relationship might be “too good to be true.”

In this episode, I explore how to overcome the fear of rejection. I answer a listener's question about struggling with the fear of rejection in love, specifically feeling frozen when it comes to asking someone out on a date. I also dive into how and why the fear of rejection can leave us feeling paralyzed, triggering the freeze response. Throughout the episode, we discuss why the fear of rejection is so overwhelming.

For this episode, I am joined by special guest, Kate Chisholm, founder of Survivors RISE, for a candid discussion about the realities of healing and surviving rape. We discuss our personal journeys of healing from rape and sexual violence, and Kate shares her story surviving rape, as well as her experience going through the criminal justice system and the impact of institutional betrayal. The episode also highlights the importance of community support, empathy, and various healing modalities we have used.

In this episode, I chat with mental health counselor Katie Landrum, to discuss our personal experiences with “good” and “bad” therapy. We discuss what makes therapy beneficial, and also what we have found harmful throughout our own experiences.  We emphasize the importance of finding a therapist who is the right fit, offers a safe space, and is non-judgemental. Katie provides us with a list of questions you can use when interviewing a therapist.

In this episode, I share about my own mental health struggles in 2024 and why I believe prioritizing mental health is so important. I discuss how I believe society impacts our mental health, and how I felt impacted by the 2024 election (specifically as a rape survivor), living through a pandemic, and social media.

Where is the holiday season magic? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone feeling sad, depressed, and lonely this holiday season. I explore ways to process and accept these emotions, reconnect with your inner child to rediscover holiday magic, and practice self-love. We also discuss the importance of taking care of yourself this holiday season.

In this episode I talk about how to become comfortable with physical touch after sexual assault. Many survivors of sexual trauma struggle with sex and being touched after sexual violence. In this episode I discuss the importance of being kind to yourself, how to practice awareness and listening to your body, and reconnecting to your body .