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That Time I Went to Equine Therapy to Help me Heal from Rape (#12)
After that all I could think about was what happened to me when I was a teenager. It was clear I didn’t have a choice anymore. This part of me was not going anywhere. That’s how I found myself talking to a new therapist on a farm. I had chosen equine therapy for two reasons. One, I had heard that working with animals could help me to trust people again. And two, I thought I may be able to skip right over the speaking about the horrible thing that I labeled all my fault, and just ride horses.
That Time I Was in a Toxic Relationship (#11)
I was eighteen, and I would have sworn I was in love.
But, was love supposed to be inconsistent, painful, and confusing? And could I truly love someone else if I didn’t yet love myself?
I started dating my first boyfriend—let’s call him Calvin—when I was a senior in high school.
That Time I Had a Panic Attack at the Airport (#10)
“Ma’am your bag will not fit in the overhead bins, you’ll have to check it.” Says an indifferent airline employee as I hand her my ticket to get on my flight from Los Angeles to Toronto.
“Are you sure?” I plead.
“Yes. Please step aside.” My palms are sweaty. My voice stammers. I feel a lump in my throat. My breathe becomes more and more shallow. This bag has to fit on this flight.
Am I Overly Identifying with Being a Rape Survivor?
I am a rape survivor. This is something I say proudly these days. Proud? Yes. Why? Because for a long time I could not even utter the word rape, and now I can speak the truth of the worst things I have survived. So, recently I found myself incredibly triggered when I was reading a book where the author implied that by stating “I am a rape survivor” it means that I am overly identifying with this experience, and that I would be better off not identifying with it at all and letting it go. She seemed to believe I’d be free if I let it go.
Why I Can’t Stop Talking About Rape
Why can’t I just let it go? This is a question I find myself pondering recently. I look back on the last seven years, and can see clearly how I lived in an endless loop of triggers, flashbacks, and challenging emotions that I had no idea how to process. I had to find a way to make sense of things that most people won’t even talk about. It was a day-by-day struggle to get to where I am. Now that I feel so much better, I look back and struggle to find the words to describe this healing journey I’ve been on.
Questions to Ask When Interviewing a Therapist
Therapy is very helpful for many people on their healing journeys, but finding a great therapist can feel overwhelming. Not all therapists are created equal and they often specialize in different types of trauma/problems and healing modalities.
Self Love Affirmations
These are 25 self love affirmations. You can pick one to work with, you can work with them all, or if none of these resonate, begin to think about what you do want to affirm about yourself and write your own!