Unrequited Love Journal Prompts
This is a list of journal prompts to assist with episode 64: Unrequited Love & Limerence: What is Unrequited Love & How to Heal from Unrequited Love & Limerence.
Journal Prompts:
When you think of unrequited love, where do you feel it in your body? Is there an aching in your chest? A pit in your stomach? Does your body get tight? Spend some time reflecting on where you feel unrequited love in your body.
If you are currently experiencing unrequited love, when did you first develop feelings for this person? What triggered these intense feelings? Was it love at first sight? Was there something specific they said or did? Become aware of what happened to create these intense feelings towards this person.
What stories do you tell yourself about this person you are experiencing “unrequited love” with? Are these stories based in reality or your idealized version of this person?
How often do you think about this person you are currently experiencing unrequited love with? Are these thoughts occasional or constant? Do you think you could be experiencing limerence?
Is it possible that you have created a “fantasy” about the person you are “in love” with? Be honest with yourself. What is it that you love about this person and start to dissect if these things you love are entirely true.
Do you tend to live in fantasies or your imagination in other areas of your life? For example: do you tend to live in what you wish was happening rather than where you actually are in the present?
Have you experienced the feelings of unrequited love before? If so, write about the times you have experienced unrequited love. Are there any similarities between these people? Or similarities in things going on in your life? Explore the similarities between these experiences and notice any patterns that arise.
Have you told this person how you feel about them? If so, what was their response and does it still feel one-sided? If not, what is holding you back from communicating your strong feelings for this person? Is it time to “shoot your shot” or to let this person go?
Write a letter of forgiveness to yourself for loving someone who doesn't love you back. Allow yourself to say all the things to yourself that you wish someone would tell you. Tell yourself that you are worthy of love and any new insights you have about this person or situation.
Have you felt unrequited love with people other than romantic partners? For example: friends, family members, parents, coworkers, mentors, etc. Allow yourself to explore all the times in your life where you have felt like you loved someone who did not love you back.
What is your relationship with being rejected? Does it feel like the worst thing in the world? Explore how rejection feels in your body. Is there a certain part of you that feels triggered when you think of rejection? Is there a memory that arises? Explore your feelings around rejection.
For some people, the pattern of unrequited love goes back to childhood. Feeling as though a parent did not love us can create a wound that we continue to play out in adulthood. Did you have a parent or caregiver where you felt as though you loved them more than they loved you? Do any specific memories come to mind? Explore if this pattern could be rooted in a childhood experience.
If you have been in previous relationships, when was the first time you were in love? How did this relationship end? Are there any remaining feelings of heartache, grief, or rejection you may still be holding onto?
Explore your previous relationships, are you able to see any patterns with the people you have had romantic feelings for? Are there any unresolved feelings from any of these past relationships?
When you think of past relationships, have you been able to fully be yourself? Have you been all of you in some relationships, no relationships, or all relationships? Allow yourself to explore this and how seen and heard you have felt throughout your relationships.
What type of person are you attracted to? Are you often attracted to emotionally unavailable people? Successful people? People you are physically attracted to first? Explore what you find attractive about someone. After you write down a few qualities, explore why these are important to you, and then ask yourself if these are qualities you possess or that you desire to possess? Bring awareness to your relationship patterns.
Write a poem about self-love. Oftentimes when we are experiencing unrequited love, we feel a lack of love in our life. Allow yourself the time to be creative and loving towards yourself.
Think of someone who you consider wise. This could be someone you know, or a loving figure like an Angel. Write in your journal from their perspective about your current situation. What advice would they tell you about what you are currently going through?
